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The art of getting what you want


the art of getting what you wantAs much as I’m a firm believer in action plans and goal setting there are other tools that you can use to get the most possible out of life. Take for example, your mind. The mind is an incredibly powerful thing. You can think yourself ill and you can think yourself well. We have around 60,000 thoughts each day and you create your life through these thoughts. You literally are what you think. This is not magic or wishful thinking. This is science. The mind is capable of so much more than we think.

Debunking the law of attraction
You don’t get what you deserve. The world just doesn’t work like that. Sending out positive energy to the universe won’t guarantee that you get positive energy back. Of course being nice to people increases the likelihood of people being nice to you, but you can’t change things with your mind. What you can do though is change how you perceive them. A side effect of positive thinking is that you don’t dwell on negative things which in itself makes you happier. Positive thoughts feed on themselves, as do negative thoughts. However, the truth is that if you want something you have to work hard to get it. Be prepared and look for opportunities. If you want something, hang out with people who have it. Observe them and learn how to become the person you want to be.

The power of visualisation
You have to already be there mentally, seeing yourself clearly in the future. By doing this you’re training your brain for action and preparing yourself emotionally for what is to come. The mental instructions in your brain are no different when you’re doing something to when you’re simply thinking about doing that thing. This is why daydreaming every now and then is good for our mental health. The more you do this motivational exercise, the more you impress a subconscious idea of yourself on your mind and you’re more likely to move towards becoming that person. Before I moved to London, I had already moved inside my head. I was already living my new life, the life I’m now living. Visualisation also improves your perception and attention span.

No one is fearless
The definition of courage is to do something despite being scared. Start viewing hesitation and worrying as a waste of time. It stops us from doing so many things that we want to do. It stops people from living the life they want to live or even going after their dreams. We lose out on so much fun that could have been had. We only live once so go out there and do that thing that you really, really want to do but have been too scared to even try. There’s nothing quite like the adrenaline kick you get when you successfully do something that you were terrified of doing. It’s amazing. Read: How I stopped worrying (and learnt to love uncertainty).

Dealing with getting what you don’t want
The philosopher Seneca (ca. 4 BC–AD 65) said that anger isn’t an irrational emotion. Things going wrong is a naturally predictable feature of life. He believed that our ideas of the world are sometimes too optimistic and we get angry when people and things don’t live up to our high expectations. Seneca further claimed that if we adjust our view of the world to a more realistic one we won’t be as surprised when things don’t go our way and we will therefore be calmer. We also need to accept that often there’s nothing we can do about our frustrations.

Lastly, remember to be sad 10 percent of the time. It’s good for your all-over happiness. It’s scientifically proven.

4 thoughts on “The art of getting what you want

  1. This is so true. There are a lot of things I’m scared of, but i reckon that doesn’t matter as long as I do them even though I’m scared! I’ve not tried visualisation before but it sounds really interesting! xx

  2. This is such a great post Chiaki! I’ve always been bad at maintaining my expectation levels and often get very disappointed when things dont turn out how I imagined them to be. Now I try and also imagine what the worst possible outcome could be and make sure im prepared to accept that outcome too. ^_^

    • Aww thank you so much, Kat! ^__^ I’ve always struggled with it as well. That’s what I do too! It’s great. It’s so nice to be prepared and things rarely go as badly as you were imagining that they could! Mind you, I still get horrifically disappointed sometimes. I was actually reading through your blog archive when you commented. *creeper alert* I love your aesthetics! xx

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