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Ch-ch-ch-changes and the myth of a perfect life

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Chiaki Creates - The Myth of a Perfect Life chiakicreates.comHello my lovelies! Hope you’re well. As you know, I’ve been conducting some rather intense self-analysis lately and felt that I needed some time off blogging. All this soul-searching made me realise that this blog doesn’t feel like me anymore. I started resenting how it represented only one heavily edited side of me. I’m in no way perfect. I don’t have a perfect life. Far from it.

Everything I share online has been carefully chosen and edited, which is fine but it’s not the whole truth. I don’t tell you when I’m too anxious to leave the house for a couple of days or when I can’t stop crying because I’m fed up with fighting my depression. This is something I struggle with on Instagram as well. Many people don’t realise that it can take 20 minutes to get a snapshot right. They look at the pretty pictures and think that my life must be perfect. It’s just how our brains work.

The truth is that I’m fighting for happiness every day. Some days I’m not even sure I want to be happy because it just seems like too much work. All I really want to do is talk about difficult things. I want to talk about how life can be improved. I want to be radically honest with you. I want to focus on my two biggest passions: writing and the human mind. I have no desire to do any more crafty tutorials or outfit posts.

I’ve been labelled a craft blogger, fashion blogger and even an interior design blogger, yet I never wanted to be either of these. I blogged a lot about crafts yes, but I never wanted to be locked into one subject. I felt like my blog was going somewhere I didn’t want to go so I’ve changed direction and given my about page a makeover.

“This blog is all about living with intention, creating your own reality and appreciating the simple pleasures in life. My aim is to empower and inspire you to live like you mean it by showing you how you can make your life happier, better, simpler and fuller. I want to encourage you to question everything and realise your full potential. Most of all though, I want to make you smile.

I’ve been dealing with mental health issues (mainly depression, anxiety, panic attacks and obsessive compulsive disorder) my whole life. I’m not claiming to have all the answers but I’ve learnt a few things along the way, so I write to help others, as well as myself.”

I hope you’re as excited for this new journey as I am.

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22 thoughts on “Ch-ch-ch-changes and the myth of a perfect life

  1. I am so glad you are keeping on writing! Keep on keeping it real lady. xxx

  2. Good on you for striving for honesty and positivity, even when it’s tough. I’ll be reading x

  3. That’s good news…..and you’re not alone!! Jane

  4. That sounds perfectly reasonable to me. It’s your blog so you can write about whatever interests you or is relevant at the time. Personally, I’ve always loved your mental health posts and appreciate you having those conversations. I hope the posts are as helpful to you as they are to those of us reading them. Wishing you all the best!

    • Thank you so much, Clare! I’m really glad to hear that you enjoy the mental health posts. They’ve always been my favourite to write. It is so important to talk about the difficult things. No one’s alone in their battle. Yes, I find writing them very therapeutic. :)

  5. I remain a fan and I feel your honesty is refreshing. Thank you!

  6. I fully support you in the directional move I try to stay positive by not talking about my issues too much but I also struggle with anixety, anxiety based depression and panic disorders. I struggle to keep things in perspective and I over thinking everything. It’s hard but also very rewarding the more you learn about yourself.
    As a reader of your blog I’ve always enjoyed chit chatting with you and reading your posts and that won’t change.
    I hope your keeping safe and well.
    Vanessa :) xxx

    • Focusing on the positive is exactly what I’ve been doing on the blog. In real life I’m very open about my mental health issues and talk about it A LOT. Yes, I over think everything as well and it is hard. It’s about trying to find a balance I guess.
      I’ve always enjoyed our chats as well and I’m so glad that you’re intending to stick around. ;)
      Thank you so much, my lovely! Hope all is well with you! xxx

      • I talk about my issues more with really close friends and family when I find it really hard to cope but balance is quite hard to try and achieve. Anyway you stay positive it’s nice to read a blog with a lovely bright personality as yourself. And i’m okay, Catching up on a bit of reading i’m only 140 pages into Goldfinch but it’s amazingly good. :) xxx

        • Yes, balance is super hard. You stay positive too, my dear! Aww thank you so much! :) Yay I’m so glad that you’re enjoying it. It’s such an amazing read. I found it difficult to read for a bit after finishing it as not many books are so utterly fantastic! xxx

          • Oh my gosh I feel like that with a lot of books i tried reading ‘A Visit From The Goon Squad’ and oh god I couldnt endure it. My friend said its because we’ve read such good books we’ve created a standard now for all other books we read that can be hard to meet lol. Im mangaing to stay pretty positive its different from day to day. But yes positivity is the key hun :D xxx

  7. “I don’t tell you when I’m too anxious to leave the house for a couple of days” I first want to thank you for this sentence. Reading it just took a huge weight off my chest. I’m so excited for this new content and I also want to congratulate you for being so brave and to take this amazing initiative :)
    I know we can make it easier to be happy as time passes, I am convinced of it!

    • Aww thank you so much, my lovely! I’m glad it helped you. :) It’s very much true. I have days when I just can’t function among other people. Yes, I am convinced too and it’s so important to remember that we’re not alone. Hope all is well with you!

  8. Honesty is so important. I for one will still be keeping up with you!

  9. I’m glad you’ve decided to carry on blogging. Balance is so hard to find online and I think we all except people to edit their lives to some extent. It’s all about where we draw the line for ourselves. Personally I enjoyed all your posts, fashion, crafting, literature, mental health, film, all of it. It’s always nice to find bloggers who have so many different interests in common with me xxx

    • Yes, it is very hard to find balance online. I agree. I do think that people (including myself) forget about the editing sometimes though. Thank you so much! That makes me very happy to hear! xxx

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