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7 things I’ve learnt this year so far

7 Things I've Learnt This Year So Far | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comI need to allow things to be good.
I’m so used to struggling just to keep my head above water that I don’t know what to do with myself when life is good. As human beings we get used to things being a certain way, and we tend to want it that way because it feels familiar and safe, even when it’s unhealthy for us. Some days, I feel terribly frustrated and crave a challenge because that’s what I’m used to, but I’m learning that it’s okay to be bored. (Thank you, Geenie.) Things being good is a good thing. It just happens to be something that I’m not fully used to yet.

Deep, unconditional love is the most important thing in life.
Distance is irrelevant and the commitment is real. As much as I enjoy my own company, I need those super connections too. They’re vital for my well-being. I’m focused on nurturing my close relationships, and I thrive on the deep love I have in my life. I feel so blessed to have people who I can trust and who love me unconditionally.

Consuming refined sugar makes me feel like I’m suffering from exhaustion.
Throughout January, I felt exhausted. I slept a lot more than usual but I still woke up tired. At work I was half asleep. It got so bad that I started worrying that I was getting seriously ill. Then it dawned on me that I was eating sugar almost every day. Let me explain. I don’t experience a sugar high; I head straight for a sugar crash. It’s like I’ve taken sleeping pills. It’s bizarre. If I can’t sleep, I just have a biscuit and go right to sleep. Completely cutting refined sugar out of one’s diet is hard, so I’m happy to have managed to drastically limit my intake of the white poison.

I can survive in a world without Bowie in it.
Losing Bowie was a tough blow. He was a father figure to me and his guidance has always been there. I felt so broken and lost, like I had lost myself. I still cry, but I know that I can and will go on. Somehow, in the collective conciousness we all seem to have thought that he was immortal. His legacy didn’t die with him though and after all, he was only visiting. He truly is one of the most wonderful men and talented artists to ever have walked our planet.

Dedicating one day a week to self care elevates my well-being tremendously.
After a long work week full of social interaction, I need a day of being with myself and doing lots of nice things for myself. Some of my favourite things to do are: taking long essential oil baths by candlelight while listening to true crime podcasts, treating myself to some new lingerie or beauty products, writing or reading in bed while drinking cherry blossom Sencha or Gyokuro, writing in my self empowerment notebook and watching comedy or horror films in bed.

Writing needs to actively be made a priority.
Having a full time job makes it hard to find enough time to focus on my raison d’être. A change of scenery is a good idea so I’m contemplating places I could go to get some peace and quiet. I want to make more time for writing personal essays and articles. Reliving my troubled past is tougher than I thought it would be, so I’m letting my autofiction book take its time and come out organically. It’s something that needs to be written.

I’m fully capable of breaking unhealthy behavioural patterns.
My past behaviour doesn’t define me. Just because I used to behave a certain way, doesn’t mean that I have to keep it up. This ties in with the first thing on this list. Just because I used to accept, and even create, chaos in my life because chaos feels familiar, doesn’t mean that I have to keep on doing it. Every now and then, I have a dream in which I mess everything up and I wake up feeling awful and guilty. These nightmares are reinforcing my determination not to do it.

How about you? What things have you learnt this year so far?

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Delightful little things

Delightful Little Things | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comA list to celebrate the delightful little things in my life.

○ Treating myself to a bunch of Body Shop products.

○ Adding more David Bowie picture discs to my small record collection.

○ Falling asleep to true crime podcasts.

○ A colleague surprise lending me her copy of Cat’s Eye by Margaret Atwood.

○ Watching horror films to unwind after work.

○ Getting to know our fabulous new manager over tea and waffles at a Nordic café.

○ Taking long essential oil baths by candlelight.

○ Having friends over for tacos and tiramisu.

○ Waking up earlier to hear my favourite podcast before work.

○ Finding an organic flapjack bar made with agave nectar instead of sugar.

○ Making banana blueberry raspberry coconut smoothies.

○ Adding a couple of my favourite books to my book collection.

○ Meeting up with a friend for vegetarian lunch buffet and cheesecake.

What delightful little things have happened in your life lately?

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Delightful little things

Delightful Little Things | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comA list to celebrate the delightful little things in my life.

○ Receiving an ornamental pineapple from my now former manager on Christmas Eve.

○ Talking to my brother on the phone.

○ Watching true crime documentaries, such as Making a Murderer, in bed.

○ Having Christmas dinner with work at a vegetarian restaurant.

○ Receiving makeup and a crescent moon necklace in the post from my dear Geenie.

○ Having friends over for dinner on Boxing Day.

○ Reading A is for Arsenic: The Poisons of Agatha Christie by Kathryn Harkup.

○ Binge watching The Bridge.

○ Having dinner with friends at an Indian restaurant on a Sunday night.

○ Finding 20 quid in the street.

○ Taking essential oil baths in candlelight while listening to Nine Inch Nails’ Ghosts I-IV.

○ Having a drink with a colleague at the friendliest gay bar on a Friday night.

○ Watching And Then There Were None snuggled up on the sofa under a blanket.

○ Making pancakes with lemon and agave nectar on Christmas Day.

○ Buying a blue mimosa patterned Boden dress for a fifth of the RRP.

○ Having lunch with work at a vegetarian café on Christmas Eve.

○ Going for walks along the seafront while listening to podcasts.

What delightful little things have happened in your life lately?


Delightful little things

Delightful Little Things | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comA list to celebrate the delightful little things in my life.

○ Buying the 40th anniversary Space Oddity picture disc.

○ Downloading a countdown app to count down to the day I can afford to move.

○ Eating pickled homegrown shiso with chilli given to me by a dear friend.

○ Seeing the same friend for tea and cake.

○ Watching Scream the TV series snuggled up in bed.

○ Starting a new notebook.

○ Drinking smoothies and listening to podcasts on my lunch breaks in the garden at work.

○ Adding Neroli oil to my aroma diffuser in the evenings.

○ Binge listening to a fabulous new podcast which I will share with you soon.

○ Receiving an unexpected tax return cheque.

○ Stirring coconut oil into rice dishes.

○ Loving my job and looking forward to going there every day.

○ Spending a Saturday afternoon in bed reading The Changeling by Kenzaburō Ōe.

What delightful little things have happened in your life lately?


Lately, according to my phone: Sweden edition

I’ve been in Sweden visiting friends and family for almost 4 weeks now and I’m savouring every moment of it. I’ve been catching up with people who I haven’t seen in years and I’ve paid several visits to my favourite Swedish shop INDISKA. Most importantly, I’ve had no responsibilities and I’ve been allowed to just be. Something that I haven’t been able to do for years. Though I didn’t see it at the time, I suffered from learned helplessness during my last 4 years in London. Being around loving, supportive people in Brighton and in Sweden is making me remember who I really am. I’m a strong, assertive woman who goes after what she wants and does what makes her happy, no matter what. No one can tell me what to do. Isn’t it wonderful what love is capable of?

Lately, According to My Phone: Sweden Edition | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comWatched The Enfield Haunting with my best friend and her cat.
Chanterelles, the gold of the forest.Lately, According to My Phone: Sweden Edition | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comBefore attending a Birthday party for a girl I met at art school.
A few beautiful things. Love my brother’s Buddha statue!Lately, According to My Phone: Sweden Edition | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comI’m always struck by my hometown’s beauty when I visit.
Went to INDISKA and got a top, an open tunic, a dress and trousers in the sale.Lately, According to My Phone: Sweden Edition | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comBlueberries straight from the forest.
The Swedish countryside is so beautiful and serene.Lately, According to My Phone: Sweden Edition | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comBefore attending a dinner party with girls I went to school with.
Love the fact that you can buy mochi ice cream and Pocky in my tiny hometown.Lately, According to My Phone: Sweden Edition | Chiaki Creates chiakicreates.comWent to INDISKA again and couldn’t leave without this gorgeous maxi dress.
A Happy Buddha on a sunny Friday afternoon.

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Delightful little things

Chiaki Creates - Delightful Little Things chiakicreates.comA list to celebrate the delightful little things in my life.

○ Getting back into reading with a Japanese murder mystery.

○ Watching American Horror Story: Freak Show and Breaking Bad in bed.

○ Listening to The Russell Brand Podcast and feeling super happy.

○ Visiting Noel Fielding’s exhibition and the Forensics: The Anatomy of Crime exhibition.

○ Learning new yoga poses.

Wearing bright floral tunics and dancing to The Doors.

○ Eating lots of Korean and Japanese food.

○ Writing late into the night.

○ Listening to a life coach podcast and finding it really encouraging.

○ Treating myself to a matinee of What We Do in the Shadows.

○ My mood having levelled out.

The League making me cry with laughter.

○ Going for long sunny walks while listening to true crime podcasts.

○ Taking lots of naps.

○ Making an orange and almond syrup cake on Mother’s Day.

What delightful little things have happened in your life lately?


Lately, according to my phone

Chiaki Creates - Instagram 76 chiakicreates.comReading and snacking on ume & shiso rice crackers with peanuts and soy milk amazake.
My new tunic dress makes me very happy.Chiaki Creates - Instagram 77 chiakicreates.comThe most gorgeous retro flower dress which has now been turned into a skirt.
Got a lovely surprise from Bridgeen in the post and it put a huge smile on my face.Chiaki Creates - Instagram 78 chiakicreates.comStarted my new part-time job at Family Tree in Exmouth Market.
Late lunch/early dinner at the café down the road. They put The Doors on when I walked in!Chiaki Creates - Instagram 79 chiakicreates.comSorted out the mess that the hairdresser made & went to a picnic in my new maxi dress.
A reminder from my mum and a marvellous book that I’ve been spending a lot of time with.